I had three people tell me to read this obituary a woman wrote about her sister who died at thirty-two after a long struggle with addiction.
Madelyn Linsenmeir, 1988-2018
While I am most moved by the first part that describes Madelyn and shows the clear love of her family for her, I am excerpting the end below because it contains a message for us as health care professionals.
If you yourself are struggling from addiction, know that every breath is a fresh start. Know that hundreds of thousands of families who have lost someone to this disease are praying and rooting for you. Know that we believe with all our hearts that you can and will make it. It is never too late.
If you are reading this with judgment, educate yourself about this disease, because that is what it is. It is not a choice or a weakness. And chances are very good that someone you know is struggling with it, and that person needs and deserves your empathy and support.
If you work in one of the many institutions through which addicts often pass â€” rehabs, hospitals, jails, courts â€” and treat them with the compassion and respect they deserve, thank you. If instead you see a junkie or thief or liar in front of you rather than a human being in need of help, consider a new profession.
We take comfort in knowing that Maddie is surrounded by light, free from the struggle that haunted her. We would have given anything for her to experience that freedom in this lifetime. Our grief over losing her is infinite. And now so is she.